I am a sucker for an elaborate self-care day once in a while. Buying beauty products and dedicating some time to treating myself is heaven for me. I love telling my family to have a long soak in the bath for sore muscles and to take care of themselves. But what about the days when I can’t even bring myself to shower? Or brushing my teeth feels too much like a chore? When I have a new face wash I have been dying to use but now I just can’t seem to convince myself to use it?
We are inundated with self-care tips & self-care routines on social media and I think its great, showing our bodies some love through pampering is amazing and should be done. However, there comes a time where our mental health takes a dip. We struggle with basic hygiene, never mind a skincare routine. I start to realise my mental health slipping when I start making excuses for not washing my face. “I’m too tired!” or “Its been such a long day, I can get away with it!”
Meanwhile, as I say these things I know I should just get up and go wash my face. I will feel better for it if I do but instead this horrible voice within me is tells me to leave it. This is not the end of the world for one night, but when its the same the next night or the night after that? What about when its been 2 days and I haven’t bathed or showered? Gross right? How could I even allow that to happen? The thing is, even though I know its gross I still can’t get myself to go and do it.
So what do I do when I feel like this?
Well, it can take time but after a lot of self-loathing, I pick myself up and dust myself off. I remind myself that self-care isn’t just face masks and manicures. Its dragging yourself to the shower to wash off the past few days dirt and baggage that you have been unable to let go of. Its being patient with yourself and really looking within to discover why you don’t have the energy to wash your face. Self-care is also forgiving yourself for letting yourself go a bit.
Eventually I look at myself in the mirror and say, “Tarryn, what the f*ck is going on here? Pull yourself together and get in the bath!” Love yourself enough to clean your body. Take pride in you and show your body you love it, even if that is just jumping in the shower and washing your hair for the first time in a week. Only you can pull yourself out of that slump and you will. Until then, be kind to yourself, know that you’re not abnormal and maybe double up on the deodorant.