6 Tips For A Temporary Long-Distance Relationship

My boyfriend and I are in the process of immigrating to England from South Africa. It has been a long, complicated journey but we are (hopefully) nearing the end of it all. Since December 2019 I have been in England working and my boyfriend has been in Vietnam teaching English. I had to come here first for 6 months and get a job so that I can prove I can support him when they approve his visa (its a long story, I will make another post about that). 

It definitely hasn’t been easy getting used to a long-distance relationship so I thought I would write down my tips on how we are getting through it: 

1. Remember the goal

It’s important to remember why you are doing this and what the outcome will be. We are currently doing the long-distance because it will allow us to live together in England. Some people do it for financial reasons. There are many reasons and I find I get through the loneliness by reminding myself why we are doing this and try to see the bigger picture. 

2. Know it is not forever

For my boyfriend and I, we keep reminding ourselves that we will be together again. I like to count down the days, so I bought a calendar and I cross off every day as it passes and I tell myself that I am one day closer to seeing him again. For those of you who don’t know when you will see each other again, every day that passes is still a day closer too. There will be a time where you are together again. 

3. Keep the communication lines open

Communication is vital for any relationship to function but even more so in a long-distance relationship. Be open and honest with one another. Tell each other how you are feeling and listen when your partner shares things with you. Miscommunication will happen over messages as we can’t sense body language or tone of voice so make sure you are being as clear as possible. Voice notes are sometimes a good alternative.

4. Make time for each other

We can get so caught up in our new routines and days that we absolutely need to prioritise time to speak to our significant other. Setting some time to call one another is super important. It shouldn’t feel like a chore but especially when there is a huge time difference, having a schedule could really work.

5. Find a hobby to pass the time

Distraction can be the best thing sometimes. It takes your mind off things and it makes the time go by. My new hobby is blogging. It helps keep my mind busy. You might also find something that you really enjoy that you didn’t know about before.

6. Be patient with yours & your partners emotions

Your emotions can go a bit haywire when you go from seeing someone every day to only having a relationship over a device. You have to get used a new way of talking to each other and sharing things with each other. It can get a bit messy. If you don’t respond to your partner for a long period of time they could get a bit insecure, the same for you if they don’t respond. Understand that these are not bad things, you might just need to reassure each other from time to time.

So there you go, these 6 points have definitely helped me get through these months without my boyfriend. It has been a bit bumpy but it has also made us stronger than ever and I can’t wait for us to get back to normal! 

If you have any other tips, please do let me know, I love hearing from you.

x

13 thoughts on “6 Tips For A Temporary Long-Distance Relationship

  1. I don’t have a long distance relationship, but social distancing without my boyfriend is really tough. What we do to cope is call regularly and still have online date nights. These tips are great – communication is the biggest factor – it can make or break your relationship!

    Em | http://www.loveemblog.com

  2. My bf used to work abroad pre-covid 19. And every year, we were apart for 8 months. It’s not easy, feels like forever, but trust is even more important. There will be paranoia but you have to trust your partner unless otherwise proven. x

  3. Long distance relationships became a reality for a lot of people when the lockdowns started, even when you only lived on opposite sides of the same city. One thing my partner and I do is to have virtual dates to help spend more quality time together while we’re apart

  4. I do NOT miss these days! A few months after my husband and I started dating he transferred (already planned) to another college 4 or 5 hours away. Then he worked out of state for a while after we were married. It is not easy, but it is definitely worth it if you’re with the right person!

  5. I was LDR with my first boyfriend until he went home due to lockdown. I had no idea how to manage a relationship, not to mention a long-distance relationship. I’d say it’s a learning process and it starts with two people understanding the situation and their goal to be together. Thanks for this!

  6. I find that so many people don’t understand what it takes to do long distance relationships. My boyfriend lives down the road from me, but because I’m always travelling and working away from home I don’t get to see him often. So many people ask me is it worth it, and it totally is if you put the right amount of time and effort in! Plus it’s all the more special once you’re reunited!

    1. That is so true, once you’re reunited you forget about all the time apart! I imagine the moment my boyfriend and I are reunited like it’s a romance movie at the airport 😂 x

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